Closing cycles
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Closing cycles
It is always necessary to know when a stage reaches the end. If we insist on staying in it longer than necessary, we lose the joy and meaning of the other stages we need to go through. Closing cycles, closing doors, ending chapters – it doesn't matter what we call it, what matters is leaving in the past the moments of life that are over.
Did you get fired from work? Did you end a relationship?
Left your parents' house? Left to live in another country?
Has the friendship so long cultivated disappeared without explanation?
You can spend a lot of time wondering why this happened. You can tell yourself that you won't take another step until you understand the reasons why certain things, which were so important and solid in your life, were suddenly turned to dust. But such an attitude will be a huge strain on everyone: your parents, your husband or wife, your friends, your children, your sister, will all be closing chapters, turning the sheet, moving on, and everyone will suffer when they see you standing still.
No one can be in the present and the past at the same time, not even when we try to understand the things that happen to us. What happened will not come back: we cannot forever be boys, late teenagers, children who feel guilty or resentful towards their parents, lovers who relive night and day a bond with someone who has already left and has no intention of returning.
Things pass, and the best thing we do is let them really go away. That's why it's so important (no matter how painful it is!) to destroy souvenirs, move house, give lots of things to orphanages, sell or donate the books you have. Everything in this visible world is a manifestation of the invisible world, of what is happening in our hearts – and letting go of certain memories also means making room for others to take their place.
Let go. Release. Let go.
No one is playing in this life with marked cards, so sometimes we win, and sometimes we lose. Don't expect them to return something, don't expect them to recognize your effort, to discover your genius, to understand your love. Stop turning on your emotional television and watching over and over again the same program, which shows how you have suffered from a certain loss: that will only be poisoning you, and nothing more.
There is nothing more dangerous than romantic breakups that are not accepted, job promises that have no set date to start, decisions that are always postponed in the name of the “ideal time”. Before starting a new chapter, you need to finish the old one: tell yourself that what's past will never come back.
Remember there was a time when you could live without that, without that person – nothing is irreplaceable, a habit is not a necessity. It may seem obvious, it may even be difficult, but it is very important. Ending cycles. Not because of pride, inability, or arrogance, but simply because it no longer fits into your life. Close the door, change the disc, clean the house, shake off the dust. Stop being who you were, and become who you are.
Text: Gloria Hurtado